WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST BEAUTY INDULGENCE?
I am rather low maintenance on beauty to be honest – but I do indulge in eyelash extensions once a month. I don’t wear much makeup, especially in the summer, and they just open and brighten up your eyes. I am certainly addicted.
YOU AND VICTOR HAVE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE, WHAT DO YOU FEEL IS ONE OF THE SECRETS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE?
Friendship is the foundation of our marriage – he was my best friend before we dated and he still is. We tell one another everything and though we have completely different careers and lifestyles, we involve one another in every creative decision – we are partners in every sense of the word. Somehow together we have grown separately over the years but always side by side. We really share everything. And we laugh A LOT.
HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR PARENTING STYLE?
I am definitely more of the disciplinarian. It has been interesting raising a pre-teen especially this past year. I feel as though Jivan has a mischievous side that I actually encourage. He is curious and adventurous – he loves to take things apart and understand their inner workings – and if I squashed that side of him, who knows I could stifle his creativity. Everything within reason and safety of course but I do foster his mischievous mind and thrill seeking tendencies.
WHAT IS ONE OF YOUR BIGEST MOTHERHOOD TRIUMPHS, AND WHAT IS ONE OF YOUR BIGGEST CHALLENGES?
Triumphs would be to have found my creative voice and career later in life. I was married at 23 and was a very young mother – when most of my friends were developing their career, I was a homemaker. I loved those precious early years, Victor, Jivan and I traveled around the world for his first 3 years, but I did struggle with who I was creatively and had a hard time defining who I was as I lacked career. I knew I had much to offer but I just couldn’t find my place. I didn’t know it at the time but those years staying home with my baby, designing our beautiful homes, cooking regularly, hosting dinner parties, and absorbing so much culture, architecture and worldly cuisines through travel, were my training and education so to speak which lead me to EyeSwoon. It all developed organically so I feel very proud. Sometimes you think you are doing it “wrong” until it is presented to you that this is your path and there is no “right” or “wrong”
Biggest challenge is remaining balanced – this digital space is all consuming, super exciting, but it doesn’t end. You are constantly creating content, concepting ideas – a blogger has many hats. If you saw me some days you would laugh….I am developing a recipe, prop styling the food, whisk in one hand and my camera in the other as I balance on a step ladder. And that’s just the creative side – so much goes into a singular post – editing, color correcting, writing, uploading, social media etc. Sooooooo I suppose my biggest challenge is staying present with myself and my family – taking my head out of the computer or phone! I am also a perfectionist and always thinking so I really need to be disciplined to stop or I just won’t.
WHEN DO YOU FEEL MOST BEAUTIFUL/SEXY?
Just after making love – you just feel so in your body – your mind completed turned off and so connected. hair tussled, flushed face, full lips.
WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE FAMILY RITUALS?
Bedtime is always the most fun in our household. When Jivan was younger all 3 of us would climb up the ladder to his loft bed and victor would tickle us both excessively on the way up. Now that J is older the games and shenanigans continue, still tickling and the boys are hard core boys and play dodge ball across the room where I literally dash out of the balls way. Its silly and fun and playful and a great way to end the day together. They can get aggressive and they both laugh at me – whenever I try to partake in the game, I always get hurt – its become an ongoing joke. I am a bit clumsy! We laugh a lot at bedtime and I joke that I have an 11 year old and a 13 year old!
Travel is a bit of a ritual for us. We all love exploring and absorbing other cultures. Travel is also very focused family time – no phones or tv – we all connect so deeply. I actually feel as though the moment we disconnect Jivan regresses to a few years younger in the most beautiful way. Last summer we discovered Sicily and this past November we went on a safari in Africa which was life altering!
IF YOU COULD REWIND TO WHEN YOU FIRST BECAME A MOM WHEN JIVAN WAS BORN, WHAT PIECE OF ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE YOURSELF?
You are enough – you are exactly where you should be – enjoy this precious time while it lasts – trust that all else will fall into place – this is your journey unraveling exactly as it was meant to
WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU DO TO GET COMFY WHEN YOU GET HOME FROM WORK?
Get cozy! sweats on immediately
IN THREE WORDS, DESCRIBE THE WAY YOU FELT AFTER GIVING BIRTH
Euphoric, empowered, like a superwoman goddess, pure
HOW DOES YOUR HUSBAND MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL – HOW DO YOU MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL?
He makes me feel adored. I make him feel sexy – or at least I hope I do!